the weekend nurture menu: the MOST significant shift

“I want to wallow in pain in order to learn life’s lessons,” said no one ever.

untitledRegardless of how evolved you are, who doesn’t want a quick fix for life’s woes? You hope that with the perfect job, perfect partner, more money, all of life’s troubles will melt away. Notice that this thinking is focusing on the outcome: what can I do/get to be happy instead of feeling happy now.

More so, this perspective doesn’t account for the energy projecting into the universe. If you’re just striving for an outcome to cure your troubles, you’re not going to attract authentic, healing growth. If you need to know the end goal, you’ll never know the positive change that manifests in the process.

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For example, if you want a new job, thinking “I want to be a big-time yoga teacher, lawyer, or graphic designer,” the end goal may disappoint you. This perspective is about a quick fix, instead of how aspects of each field make you feel. A shift in perspective will attract the things you want, because its emerging from an internal healing instead of an external cure. Gabrielle Bernstein explains this shift best:

“Many people approach manifestation from a place of “How can I get something to feel better?” Instead, the focus should be: “How can I feel better and therefore be an energetic match for attracting more greatness into my life?”

This is the MOST important shift: from focusing on what what you want to get or what you want to do to focusing on how you want to feel.

Over the weekend, this concept knocked my socks off. I looked to all the things, foods, and people in my life that make me feel inspired, nurtured, and loved. I felt compelled to refocus my healthy feelings with healthy burgers…

wild mushroom and lentil burgers with cashew garlic cream
makes 6-8 patties

  • 1 cup beluga lentilsphoto (5)
  • 1 tbsp of coconut oil
  • 1 red onion, sliced (optional)
  • couple pinches sea salt
  • 2 cups mixed wild mushrooms, sliced (wood ear, shiitake, oyster, chanterelle…)
  • 5 cloves garlic, minced
  • 3 tbsp fresh rosemary
  • 1 tbsp fresh thyme
  • 2 tbsp tamari
  • ½ cup sunflower seeds
  • 15 kalamata olives
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 tbsp dijon mustard
  • freshly cracked black pepper
  1. Wash and drain lentils. In a medium saucepan, cover with 2 cups water, bring to a boil, cover, reduce to simmer and cook until tender (about 20-25 minutes). Remove lid off to cool and set aside. Drain if there is any water left.
  2. In a frying pan heat a knob of coconut oil. Add sliced onions, if using, and a pinch of salt. Cook until softened, about five minutes. Add garlic, rosemary and thyme. Cook for a few minutes, then add sliced mushrooms. Allow the mushrooms to cook without stirring for a few minutes so that they brown on one side. After five minutes, stir mushrooms and add tamari, stir to coat. When mushrooms are cooked, remove from heat and set aside.
  3. In a food processor grind sunflower seeds until they resemble breadcrumbs. Add cooked lentils, mushroom mixture, mustard, olive oil, and cracked black pepper. Pulse to blend. [You may need to stir once in a while. Avoid adding too much liquid – the mixture should be thick.]
  4. Pit and roughly chop olives. Add to the food processor and stir to combine.
  5. Form 6-8 balls with the mixture, slightly smaller than a baseball. Press to flatten into patties, but keep them thick. Press around the outside edge to prevent them from cracking.
  6. You can warm the burgers two ways: heat a knob of coconut oil and cook the burger on one side until golden, 4-6 minutes, then flip and cook on opposite side OR cook burgers in a 375°F/ 190°C oven for 15-20 minutes, flipping halfway through bake time. [Remember that they are already fully cooked, so all you need to do is heat them up.]
  7. Serve burgers open-faced on a slice of gluten-free or extra-grainy toast. Garnish with cashew garlic cream, avocado, and a pile of greens.

photo (7)cashew garlic cream

  • ½ cup raw cashews, soaked for at least 4 hours
  • ½ cup water
  • 1 clove garlic (start with just ½)
  • 2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
  • 4 tsp fresh lemon juice
  • 2 tbsp chives
  • ½ tsp sea salt
  • Squirt honey or maple syrup
  1.  Soak cashews for at least 4 hours, up to 12. Drain and rinse.
  2. Add cashews to a food processor or blender, which ever is the most powerful. Add ½ clove garlic, all other ingredients and ¼ cup of water. Blend on high and add the remaining water in increments until the desired consistency is reached – not too thick, not too runny. Season to taste and add the other half clove of garlic if desired. [adapted from mynewroots.org]

Ask yourself: What can I start doing right now to bring more of this feeling into my life? Don’t worry about money or status that will emerge or what other people will think of you. If you’re acting from an inspired place, the money comes. When you feel how you want to feel, when you’re authentically you, people become inspired by you.

xo, S

the weekend nurture menu: self-study… the more difficult path

d3ffa55ce005aca3589e8e36e4657f43If your goal is to live a full and happy life, there is no greater tool than self-study.  With ever increasing responsibilities and mediums to escape reality, taking time to look inward can be an effort. Indeed, it is lovely to get together with friends, have a glass of wine, or watch a great TV show, but often those activities hold you back from being with yourself.

In Sanskrit, the term svadyaya signifies this essential yogic practice of self-study. Physical postures combined with self-exploration is what embodies a yogic practice and a mindful life.

Look back on your week or day, did you keep busy running from activity to activity? Did you cruise the internet or your smartphone while you ate meals? Were you constantly listening to music or did you have the TV on to quiet the sound of your thoughts?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, ask why… What is it that keeps you from looking inward?

Part of this self-study for me is ayurveda, the traditional healing modality of vedic culture. Ayurveda is a self-study in health and well-being. Chyavanprash is a new obsession of mine, only you must find something to eat it with. My recommendation are the crackers below. The fruity jam with the savory cracker is a lovely combo of salty and sweet.

photo (3)rosemary almond crackers
about 12 crackers

  • 2 cups packed almond flour or pulp (from almond milk)
  • 2 Tbsp. olive oil
  • 2 Tbsp. chopped rosemary
  • 1 tsp. sea salt
  1. Preheat oven to 350° F.
  2. Combine all ingredients in a large bowl.
  3. Transfer the dough onto a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Press the dough into a flat sheet, roughly 1/4 inch thick. Cut the dough into squares.
  4. Bake for 30-40 minutes until crackers have browned and hardened. Go over the lines again to separate. Allow to cool. [Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to a week.]

Explore yourself through yoga, ayurveda, or simply sitting without distractions. This is perhaps the more difficult path, but if you can stick with it, the complexities and beauty of you will unfold before your very eyes.

weekend nurture menu: expressing your love…

2657116Valentine’s Day… Often cursed by single folk everywhere and forced by those in relationships. Perhaps it is a Hallmark holiday, but it can also be tremendously meaningful.

Ok. Here it goes… Hi. My name is Saren and I love Valentine’s Day. 

I used to hate it– why should all the people in relationships get to celebrate!?! Then I realized how much love surrounds me everyday.  Yes, I’m single. Yes, I’m a lawyer. Does that mean I should be cold and hateful? I make the choice to love and to see the love that surrounds me.

In many cultures, perhaps even in your family, expressions of love/like/appreciation are few and far between. Yet, according to many scientists, all humans share the same basic emotions. The concept of the universality of human emotion was first explored by Darwin who theorized that emotions were biologically based and had an adaptive value.

This is one day of the year where you can be cheesy and expressive. You have the emotions–why hold them back? If you focus on the love instead of the commercialization of the holiday, you can create a different reality.

If “I love you” is too much, a simple “thank you” or a smile can be enough to change someone’s day.

This weekend, I gathered a bunch of loved ones for “Craft Your Love”–cooking, camaraderie, and crafting expressions of love–it was a thing of beauty.

I cooked for these miraculous women in my V-Day attire…

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I made a white bean dip with homemade corn tortilla chips, lemon rosemary and coconut oil roasted vegetables, preserved lemon and chickpea pasta with parsley and toasted almond pesto, and almost-raw peanut butter, chocolate and banana brownies.

almost-raw peanut butter, chocolate and banana brownies

  • 1 cup pitted prunes IMG_8755
  • 1 cup dried cherries
  • 1 cup walnuts or almonds
  • 1 cup pistachios
  • 1/2 cup whole salted peanuts
  • 1 tbsp melted coconut oil
  • 1/2 cup quality unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 2 tsp natural vanilla
  • 2 ripe bananas
  • 1/4 cup natural unsweetened peanut butter
  • 3 tbsp maple syrup
  1. In a blender or food processor, combine prunes, cherries, walnuts, pistachios, coconut oil and ¼ cup cocoa powder.  Process until the brownie mixture is well blended. [The mixture should be sticky and hold together when pressed between your fingers.  If it doesn't, add a little bit more coconut oil.]
  2. Line a baking pan (roughly 6 1/2 x 10) with parchment or wax paper and then spread the brownie mixture overtop, distributing as evenly as possible.  Using a the back of a spoon, gently press down.
  3. Sprinkle peanuts over the brownie layer, pressing down gently on them to set into the mixture.
  4. Using the same blender or food processor, add: vanilla, banana, peanut butter, maple syrup and cocoa powder until mixture is well blended and the frosting develops a nice creamy texture.
  5. Spread frosting over brownie layer, spreading it out to distribute evenly.
  6. Place pan in freezer for about 45 minutes to one hour until mixture has set.
  7. Remove pan from freezer and, using both sides of wax or parchment paper, pull brownie slab out of the pan. Cut slab into 24 squares and store in freezer.

[adapted from inspirededibles.com]

Then we crafted expressions of love and love was felt in the crafting itself.

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“The world is a wonderfully weird place, consensual reality is significantly flawed, no institution can be trusted, certainty is a mirage, security a delusion, and the tyranny of the dull mind forever threatens — but our lives are not as limited as we think they are, all things are possible, laughter is holier than piety, freedom is sweeter than fame, and in the end it’s love and love alone that really matters.”  ~Tom Robbins

I love you. Happy Love Day.

xo, S