You can choose what affects you. Simply, take the best and leave the rest. In practice, however, its a complicated dance of protecting yourself and receiving the good stuff.
the protection practice
Some of us take in other people’s negative energy without even knowing it. Absorbing issues from a boss, family, or friends will affect you.
For example, say you show your sister a project you’ve done and she criticizes it. Ideally, you take the constructive criticism and better your work. The challenge is weeding through the energy aimed at you, deciding what is a reflection of your work and what is a reflection of your sister.
Note: Nowhere in this example did I say that the criticism is a reflection of you and who you are. Hearing it that way can be depleting.
Hearing criticism, anger, and sadness and not absorbing the person’s issues with it, requires protection. The gifted Carrie Crotts changed my world with a protective mantra: What’s mine is mine, what’s yours is yours, and yours will remain yours.
By repeating and meditating on this brilliant mantra, you can protect yourself from absorbing the negative energy people throw out there. More so, you can protect yourself from their negative energy as a reflection of you.
the receiving practice
On the other side of the coin, we must receive in order to give and grow. When the universe is offering good stuff–compliments, free treats, beauty–receiving can nourish you. Plus, when you focus on the good stuff, you’ll attract more of the good stuff.
Receiving isn’t always so easy. How do you react when someone gives you a compliment? Do you brush it off? Or do you receive and express your gratitude?
Recently, the wise Rebecca Niziol shared a powerful tool called a “receiving journal,” where you keep track of awesome things that you receive.
Some things in my receiving journal, i.e. my iphone notepad: you’re a wonderful ally, the beauty of the blizzard, you wrote a good email, free nail polish change, you’re such a radiant beam of light, a good parking space, you have great instincts…
When you receive love, in whatever form, more love will appear. Not to mention, you’ll have more love to give.
the protection and reception dance
Choosing what energy comes into your world, the dance of protecting and receiving, is based on awareness. Step back from the situation. Acknowledge what to block and what to receive. Take the best and leave the rest.