“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and happiness.” -Steven Covey

Make a list of five things that you want out of life. Go ahead–think of five things you truly want.

My guess is that “things,” cars, vacations, houses, clothes, are not on that list. Fundamental desires usually are happiness, peace, prosperity, love, fulfillment…the intangibles. What if I told that you already have everything you need to achieve these intangibles?

Each and everyone of us has the ability to find these intangibles inside of us. It’s by tapping into our own light that intangible desires are a reality. Of course, the question becomes how do you tap into this light…

Simple answer: stop reacting and ask questions.

See, we live in a world of reactions and responses. I’m not just referring to a rising temper during a argument. I’m also talking about a whether to send a text, to take a side in a feud, to judge others, to stay quiet or be the center of attention in a group gathering… I’m talking about how to respond to big accomplishments, little failures, and everything in between. We are always responding to something, internally, externally, or both.

For bigger choices, generally we take time to weigh our options and ask questions. Yet, with daily choices, often we just react. We speak, move, and think without asking why we are responding the way we are.

If you take the time to question, to ask yourself why and how you are responding, you start to learn. You learn what truly matter to you; you learn why you function the way you do; and you learn that everything you want and need is within you.

You can see that tapping into your light is the true path to your fundamental desires.

I had an issue with this concept at first. I’m a huge proponent of listening to intuition. If we’re constantly questioning our intuition, doesn’t that mean we’re doubting it? How do you know if you’ve made the right choice if the questioning doesn’t stop?

My extraordinary friend Justin clarified, “It isn’t about the right choice. There is never a right choice. It is about asking the questions.”

In other words, the light is not exposed through the answer; it is exposed through the process of asking questions.

Today, practice noticing your reactions. Practice letting the emotions come up and exploring where those feelings are rooted. You may not discover your reactions in words–you may have to feel your way through. Then create an informed response. Discover your intangible desires through discovering your light.