the weekend nurture menu: is the grass always greener?

[As always, gluten-free, dairy-free, and refined-sugar-free!]

Often, the grass seems greener on the other side…When you’re bored, you wish you had purpose. When you’re incredibly busy, you wish you had time to be bored. Perhaps you look at someone and yearn for her life absent of your problems, but inevitably that person’s life comes with another host of issues. The point being that, in theory, you’re never absent of something to complain about.

Now, I’m not saying that life is miserable. I’m saying that while we cruise along in life or make our way through a transition, how you appreciate what life has given could transform the time or you in the process. Some of the most horrific ordeals have befallen the graceful and the graceful still retain their grace. Instead of wishing yourself out of something, regardless of the situation’s magnitude, can you retain your grace throughout?

Have you ever watched yourself move through your day? Take a step back and just watch. Often we spend so much time looking at other lives or wishing we could get to the other side of the fence, that we miss the green grass that surrounds us.

Yes, be in the moment, but then go deeper. Nurture where you are in your life by sinking into the difficulties, the triumphs, the blessings, and the curses, for that is what creates a life worth your own envy.

I could find countless blessings and curses in my life. I’m not going to list them, nor am I going to run from them. I am going to nurture myself and the grass that I’m walking through. Despite office chaos, these sweet potato and quinoa patties over baby kale and avocado allow me to step back and sink to my life. I am able to dwell in the simple joy of everything that surrounds me.

sweet potato and quinoa patties
about 14-16 patties

  • 1 medium onion, finely diced
  • 2 cloves of garlic, minced (optional)
  • 2 medium carrots, peeled and finely diced
  • 1 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
  • 1¾ cups quinoa
  • 3 cups of water
  • 2 medium sweet potatoes, peeled and chopped into 1″ chunks
  • 2 eggs, lightly beaten
  • ½ cup oat flour
  • 1 tsp paprika
  • salt & pepper, to taste
  1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees and grease a cookie sheet.
  2. In a large saucepan over medium-low heat, saute onion, optional garlic, and carrots in olive oil for 3-4 minutes. Add quinoa, water and paprika.
  3. Cover, bring to a boil and then reduce to med-low. Simmer for 10 minutes until liquid is absorbed.
  4. Steam sweet potato chunks for 4-6 minutes, until softened. In a large mixing bowl, mash sweet potatoes with fork or potato masher.
  5. Add cooked quinoa mixture to the sweet potato and mix together. Add lightly beaten eggs and breadcrumbs.
  6. Stir mixture until thoroughly combined. Allow to cool for 15 minutes, until cool enough to handle.
  7. Form mixture into hockey puck sized patties by hand and place on the cookie sheet.
  8. Bake for 20-25 minutes and allow to sit for 5-10 minutes after baking. Serve warm or cold!

[adapted from generationyfoodie.com]

american pastime…

Ever wished you lived in another country? That grass isn’t much greener unless the national cookie is chocolate chip. Another reason to not just appreciate where you are (assuming you’re in the U.S.), but dive in deeper.

chocolate chip cookies
about 20 cookies

  • ⅔ cup coconut flour
  • ⅓ cup arrowroot starch
  • ½ teaspoon baking powder
  • ¼ teaspoon baking soda
  • ⅓ cup coconut palm sugar
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 whole eggs or 2 flax mixture (3 tbsp flax meal with 6 tbsp water, let sit for 10 minutes)
  • ⅓ cup chocolate chips
  • 4 tablespoons coconut oil, liquid
  • 4 tablespoons coconut butter, softened (or vegan butter)
  • 3-4 tablespoons water
  1. Have all ingredients out to room temperature.
  2. Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.
  3. In a large bowl, place all your dry ingredients. Stir. Add in your chocolate chips and mix.
  4. Next add in your liquid coconut butter, coconut oil, and eggs or flax mixture. Stir.
  5. Add in water until you get the batter to start holding together. It will be on the thick side.
  6. Scoop onto cookie sheets then flatten with your fingers. Bake for 14-16 minutes. Cool before removing from cookie sheets.

[adapted from purelytwins.com]

“The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you may be.” ~Robert Fulghum

xo, S

the weekend nurture menu: the relationship with yourself

We tend to think of being alone as a default state, not a choice, preferring to have people around. In the default mentality, you are choosing to nurture relationships with others over the relationship with yourself.

the fear of loneliness v. the self-relationship

While loneliness carries a delusion that wholeness comes with the company of another, enriching alone time manifests a fundamental self-love.

Years ago, to keep “lonely” out of my vocabulary, my wise friend told me that I must have a relationship with myself. More then just a knowing, having a relationship with yourself means a deep giving, nurturing, and loving.

Imagine your best friend or partner: hopefully, you think this person is fantastic enough that you love to be in his/her presence. You give to this person; you comfort and support this person; you want this person to love herself/himself. Can you think of the relationship with yourself as important to nurture in this way?

My relationship with myself… well, myself and I have taken the next step. Though some may see this as slightly schizophrenic, I have chosen, not defaulted, to make myself my best friend.

choosing and embracing “alone”

People are often confused when I choose to travel, to be, and to live alone. This choice does not mean that I don’t love my friends and family. Rather, I know that I must actively nurture the relationship with myself.

In the midst of my ongoing trip to Cali, I took the weekend to drive the coast–alone.

One of the tricks to alone adventures is to figure out what makes a new place excite you.

Things I look for in my travel destinations: food and nature. Clearly, these necessities do not limit my travel options.

monterrey bay

monterey bay

Driving south from San Francisco, I first stopped in Monterrey, found the Whole Foods, created a salad, grabbed a fresh juice, and a homemade almond milk. Then I found nature.

When you’re surrounded by beauty and you feel your best, who better to share that with then yourself?

nurture your intuition

What makes you move on to the next town? When do you decide to stop for a beautiful view? Understanding when and why you’re making decisions is the key.

salad from bliss cafe, san luis obispo

You have nothing to prove to anyone. No one to please but yourself. Trust that you are enough.

After driving through epic scenery and hiking in Big Sur, I spent the night in San Luis Obispo. Again, I found the healthiest food possible and a gorgeous spot to indulge.

In this adorable little town, ET was playing in the park. Among the “ooos and ahhs” of little kids, I remember why I am here…

If I had waited for someone to travel with or simply not traveled for lack of company, what a world I would have missed!

We give so much love and nurturing to others, instead of ourselves. Seek out and embrace the alone time in order to give that love back to you.

“Begin here. It is raining. I look out on the maple, where few leaves have turned yellow, and listen to Punch, the parrot, talking to himself, and to the rain ticking gently against the windows. I am here alone for the first time in weeks, to take up my ‘real’ life again at last. That’s what is strange — that friends, even passionate love, are not my real life, unless there is time alone in which to explore and to discover what is happening or has happened. Without the interruptions, nourishing and maddening, this life would become arid. Yet I taste it fully only when I am alone here and ‘the house and I resume old conversations…” -May Sarton

the weekend nurture menu: resilience, napa-style

Normally my nurture menus are oriented towards prepping for the coming week. This menu takes an after-the-fact approach: resilience from a crushing week (or a few).

The word ‘resilience’ evokes an elastic, bouncy quality. Webster’s defines it as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” Not sure how you want to categorize studying for the bar exam–misfortune or change–either way, this intense event required adjustment and now requires recovery.

After something like the bar exam, a ridiculous work week, or a difficult life event, resilience means recovering the love of life you once had.

I am beyond privileged to revive that love of life with a jaunt on the west coast, starting in Napa. Thus, this menu combines food, lessons, and love to nurture a bounce-back to whole.

recipe for resilience
serves one directly and everyone you come into contact with indirectly

  • Unconditional love (Family–the related or the unrelated kind.)
  • Food (Not the fueling stuff we require, but the sparkling flavors and colors that remind you why the terms “foodie” and “food porn” exist.)
  • Physical activity (You must reconnect with your body awareness, especially if your job requires being in your head.)
  • Nature (Remind yourself of the big, beautiful, non-concrete world out there.)
  • Laugh, laugh, laugh (No explanation required.)
  • Things that make you feel alive (Different for everyone.)
  1. Begin with love, food, and fabulous accessories. This is my definition of unconditional love: my mother. Add in some delectable eats from French Blue.  Sprinkle in a fabulous hat, because, well, this is something that I love.
  2. Now dive deep into food exploration. Begin with colors and flavors from Farmstead Restaurant…Sorry to disappoint you if you thought I don’t eat meat or dairy. Generally, I don’t. I believe in health and feeling amazing. Simply put, when you’re faced with grilled peaches, ricotta crostini, prosciutto, and a drizzle of honey, you’d be silly not to feel amazing after a bite.Wood grilled jumbo artichoke with sauce gribiche and lemon… and you remember what living tastes like.
  3. Blend in physical activity, nature, and laughs. Yes, wine-country is perfect for this, but all of the above are accessible in your own backyard (even if your backyard is Lincoln Park!)Biking, yoga-ing, running, swimming… feel your body, feel your breath–just remember how to feel and not just think!Revive at adorable, outdoor restaurants where a sip of juice brings a smile to your face. Look at the juice bar’s vibrant carrot, orange, tumeric, ginger, and coconut milk juice and the berry antioxidant smoothie. I recommend indulging after being on a bike.Laugh more and keep your helmet on the whole time. Just kidding.And then pick grapes. Or, if you’re not in a vineyard, pick a piece of grass, smell the scents of your city, feel the breeze on your skin.
  4. Make sure that all the ingredients are well mixed. Garnish by letting go of the pressure you just experienced and relishing the love of life.
  5. Bon Appétit!

xo, S